Updated: May 1, 2019
When I experience hot flashes it feels like I'm wearing a portable heating pad turned on high, kinda like sitting in a car that has heated seats and you mistakenly push the button, and all of a sudden you're hot. Now imagine this happening in meetings, in line at the store, at night when you're trying to fall asleep etc..
Hot Flashes SUCK! One of the most embarrassing things about menopause are the hot flashes. When you’re in your Twenties and early thirties no one expects you to spontaneously combust, so when it does happen it is very embarrassing because people are looking at you and saying,“are you okay” if I had a dollar for every time a person has asked me that question I’d be able to pay my car off and go shopping. Hot Flashes are the devil!
What it feels like to have a Hot Flash:
This is fear that it won’t stop. I know for me when I’m in social situations my hot flashes tend to be more intense and seem to last longer.
3. Un-lady like
So, us women most of us are dainty we like to look cute and sweating is not cute. I’ve heard people say, “I don’t sweat I glisten”, well I’ll be honest I sweat, and I remember when I first started going out in public and I began flashing it just wasn’t lady like to me I hated it because the sweat would come through my clothing. The only time I feel like its okay is when I’m in the gym LOL!
For me it’s a reminder of what happened, what I’ve been through and what can’t happen.
What should a person NOT do:(If you see a woman of any age having a hot flash please be mindful of her feelings)
1. Don’t point it out in front of people
Often the best thing to do is to agree that it’s hot or offer some cold water is you’re in a place to do that.
2. If she’s a millennial don’t say you’re too young, she already knows this.
I know there’s a bit of a shock when a young woman in her 20’s or early 30’s says she is experiencing a hot flash, but you make it even more uncomfortable when you point it out. Let’s be real, everybody’s’ not comfortable talking about their situations, just be mindful.
At this point I don’t know what else to say, it boils down to those of us who are experiencing menopause we will at some point learn to manage ourselves in social situations some take medication to manage their symptoms and others are like me who are considering a more natural alternative to managing symptoms of menopause.
Where ever you are on your journey I hear you ladies and I love to hear your stories.